Thanks cat03. Yes I have told him how sorry I am that I never acknowledged or confronted his unhappiness and that I take my share of the blame for what happened. Right now he is frightened of feeling like he did before"trapped in the marriage" and not being able to get out again. But he doesnt want divorce and says he cares for me deeply. This is what keeps me hanging on. My gut feeling right now is that a few weeks silence is a good thing. We havent done it before, I would always call him (but in a friendly non-needy way) after five or 6 days. Or he would call me. Its odd communication has just stopped. But I feel he is thinking things through-also afraid to call in case I lose it and make demands like I did when we were last together. Im going to leave it another 2 weeks then take your advice and send him a friendly card.As someone else posted,my insisting on contact isnt going to make him reconnect......Thanks for your comments x
