He left then Cheated ---Now What???

[No Longer BH]

One thing that has stuck out in my head since my therapy session was that T said she felt like my H was putting on a "show" of being a good dad right now. He's using it as a way to justify that his actions have been ok because look at what a wonderful parent he is. She then went on to say that this kind of behavior tends not to last for more than 8month - 1 year. That then even the pressure of parenting becomes too much. Has anyone here had this happen to them?

Unfortunately, H was not too involved with S except video games before he left. After he left it was like he was going to prove to everyone (maybe OW) how wonderful he really is. The reason I bring this up is because ever since last night telephone conversation H has sent me 3 emails to check up on how S is doing. I'm keeping him informed but kinda feel like if he really wanted to know, he could have called S and talked to him. It just feels like all show and no substance. I really hope that she is wrong about how involved H stays. But my H has started to live the exact say life his F has had - F had an affair, left H mother and married OW, acted like a great parent then lost interest in his kids. By the time my H was 20, he stopped having any contact w his F. After S was born, we called F to see if he wanted to come and meet his new grandson and he said maybe when the time was better. That was almost 9 years ago. Funny, my H swore he would never be like his F. Guess sometimes the apple just doesnt fall as far as we want. Can you see why I'm hoping and praying that this really is just an MLC, but many times I wonder if its just not who he has become.