I am going to have to disagree with the centered part... And I am going to be very direct...
A component of being centered involves having the strength to face and deal with life head on. You are not centered. You are escaping and engaging in denial and avoidance. And you are misinterpreting "escaping" with achieving peace of mind.
You have young kids that need you and their mother. Like it or not - you both need to be very available to both of your boys until they are old enough to go to college. Applying for a job in CO without ensuring that your boys are growning up w/o two parents locally - IMHO is not an option. It is selfish and self-centered.
There is nothing Buddhist about moving a gagilion miles away from your responsibilities "hoping" it all works out for the best.
Moving away to force the issue of a D is avoidance. If you want a D - file for it and do the work it takes to get the D.
There are many people in the west that turn to eastern philosophy as an escape when they are confused. Eastern philosophy, including Buddhism IS NOT about escape. That is a western mis-interpretation of the east. People that write books about "finding" themselves in some ashram in India annoys me to no end. Eastern philosophy is about working on you so you have strength to face your life. Really no different than Western philosophies if you look at the core teachings. (Okay I am getting off my soapbox now)
