custody hearing on friday -- so scared

[phbear316]

Maryangela

Listen to NikB and SG

Stop putting yourself down. Look where standing up for yourself has gotten you. Are you kidding me. So would you just rather just go into a corner and rock back and forth and cry. NO you are strong, you will get up, wipe your face, and do this for your D and for you.

Yes, honey you are being abused, you can stop it and you are stopping it. The more you show him how much he upsets you and sets you off into these tail spins of self loathing and worthlessness is just like him putting his hands on you.

Abuse is abuse, verbal or physical. You know the stronger and taller you stand there more he loses his power and control over you. So I say this again , and i will keep saying it maryangela

STAND UP! You are a strong woman, STAND UP TO HIM.

The taller and stronger you stand, the more he loses.

You can do this you know how to stand up to him. Just don't give into him.
You cannot see the effect of you being calm and quiet and not getting into with him, makes him more out of control, for he is not controlling you. Cut the strings, let go.

Be Maryangela, be yourself. Be a mom. Be the warm and wonderful person we all know you are. Be a loving person. Show your h, your life will go on. I know this has to be so hard for you for not having your D right now. But that is the key word, right now. That will change very soon.

Just keep being the loving person you are. Take a friend out to dinner, rent a funny movie, put your ipod in your ears and sing on the top of your lungs. Go to a book store, go to a dollar store and buy some chalk and bubbles and give them to your d when she comes home this weekend and use them.

Shut him out show him he is not getting to you, when he talks to you start singing row row row your boat in your head. My personal favorite was just keep swimming from finding nemo.

Trust your lawyer, but most of all trust yourself. Keep control. The truth will be seen soon.

You cannot fix yesterday, you can learn from today to make tomorrow better.

You will survive. just like we all have here.

hugs
bear