I'm glad you recognize you need to set boundaries. Honestly, that's another one of those "gifts" of this whole situation to come my way.
It sounds like you're doing great--glad to hear it!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!