Did I diappoint you

[Virtually_Handsome]

So apparently TAP is coming back this week. And living with H for a couple weeks until her place opens up - why she can't stay with her parents is beyond me. Which explains his rush to get rid of me. Can't have me showing up at his place and find her there.

The good news just keeps rolling in!

Michelle, is he worth it?

Hiding, from properly swung DB 2x4s......

[MichelleLT]

Is it a sad state of affairs when your H's best friend is telling you he is an a$$hole and that he thinks you should bail on the M?

[Virtually_Handsome]

Hmmmm, it's probably not a good thing.....

[MichelleLT]

H's Best Friend: before you're a wife, or even a girl, you're a human being and if you're not being treated that way, and not ALLOWING yourself to be treated that way....then you gotta get outta where you're at.
Friend: i know you don't believe in divorce....but before that, you probably don't believe in being treated like garbage, either.
Friend: i'm sure that value is higher up on the list than your feelings on divorce.
Me: yeah, true
Friend: i really think you need to bail this ship.
Me: i am starting to think so too
Friend: sure, he might get 'what he wants'.....but it's the last time he'll take something from you.
Friend: in fact, it's probably him shooting himself in the foot.
Me: i am not sure he will ever realize what he's lost
Friend: but, he won't see that till he really loses you for good.

[Virtually_Handsome]

I take it that means such a thing has occurred?

[MichelleLT]

Is it weird that one of my confidants through this whole thing has been my H's best friend?

And yes, he's telling me how much I just need to run right now. That my H will regret it later, but that I need to take myself out of this bad situation cuz he's treating me like crap.

[Virtually_Handsome]

he's treating me like crap.

Not that well, I think....

[mishka422]

Not even half that well IMHO

[jon2911]

Well, there's your answer.

My guess is that TAP responded to your article by pressuring H. She wants to know that some progress has been made on the D when she gets back. This should be interesting...

[jon2911]

Michelle,
Finally caught up with your IM's from Monday.

I just have a couple thoughts:

1. He says "lets get together, and you can say your piece". BAD IDEA. No good can come from that right now.

2. Right now he says you're just being stubborn, and don't believe in divorce. You don't really admire him and want to be with him. OK, let's be honest, it's probably true, at least right now.

I have some more thoughts but think it's best to wait a couple days for things to cool off.