"may as well have undressed them and put them in bed." That is degrading to us, and also presumptive of having more control and power in life than you really do
That statement was directed to me alone. No one else, as it fit my situation, please don't twist my words.
J3B,
Honestly. Nothing was 'directed' at you or a backhanded comment that is fitting of your situation only. This is not anything nasty or twisting. Yes, I am not hiding that it was a quote from your post. And, I was only commenting my thoughts on your statement -- part of dialogue....as I recall others doing as well. My apologies for not directly quoting you, it's not a tool I'm familiar with as I don't use the site much anymore.
I expressed my thoughts about that line of thinking, that we own too much of the blame and it is: 1) degrading to the person taking too much blame and 2) possibly presumptive of more control than we actually have in the situation.
These are not just my own thoughts, but also of a psychiatrist I know, regarding the very same line of thinking that I had at one time.
Again, it's a fine line between self-awareness and admitting your part to too much.
