I'll be honest. I think your such is much different than most of the sitch's on the board. Because I honestly believe that your wife wants to be married to you.
So my advice differs from what I might tell another person on this board.
There is no need to withhold anything from her.
There is no need to do anythng other than what comes naturally out of your love for her.
And no fear of you being a doormat. Unless for some reason you start to feel like a doormat.
Go with your heart. Trust your feelings. Be the man.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."