So Bill You are hanging with me and I appreciate that. I want to ask you..everyone and maybe some walking away wives out there something.
I am sitting here thinking about what has become a bit of a routine for my day off. Wife works close to home, I do not. I have always been around on my day off to see her, talk to her..pop in to say hello, etc.
That has continued, mostly, these last couple of months since the talk, and really seems to be the only day that I initiate contact with her. When I am at work and she is also, or at home, it is her that sends me a text, or calls for one reason or another. Mostly text I have noticed...silly jokes, comments, questions..whatever it may be, she is the one that always seems to be the first one. It makes me feel good...I will be sitting there thinking about her and "ding"..I get a text. I have made it a point to not bug her while she is home alone, at work out with friends, whatever..and 9 out of 10 times, I hear from her first.
Back to my days off. Unless I have an appointment or something pressing, I will usually give her a call and see if she wants lunch, coffee...anything while I am out, etc. She is usually receptive....sometimes I get the "Aww, you don't have to, or only if you are coming this way, don't make a special trip for me", etc.....of course she doesn't know it is in the opposite direction I had planned to go.
Today I brought her lunch and asked if she wanted to have dinner tonight....gave her her choice and went shopping.....I am prepping as I speak and waiting for her to come home....she even offered to cook when she got here if I wanted her to.
She has been texting me back and forth all afternoon about problem customers...the heat...always seems as though she is trying to stay in touch somehow, especially when I try to avoid contacting her.
Given the situation, do you think that I should be LESS receptive to her text messages and phone calls and such? Am I making myself too available? Never giving her times where she can't get hold of me or knows where I am....should I try for more of those instances?
Is it wrong for me to be sitting at home, making dinner and waiting for her to get here? It IS something I would have done before, but maybe not as consistently, like helping around the house, or doing laundry.....they are not so much 180's as things I should have had a part in all along, but let go.
She never makes much of a fuss about any of it....just seems to accept that is what I am going to do and I think appreciates it...
...and before someone says doormat....the other day she spent the whole day home cooking. Not just one thing but a few, and one was a favorite that I asked for.
