Jen you are right to have him give up the EA or the friendship or whatever he wants to call it. I had an EA that turned into a friendship afterwards and I can say it truly had a negative impact on my M, as innocent as it might have seemed (at least to me at the time).
As far as being selfish, I probably said or would have said the same thing at the time. It wouldn't make me right. I thought I was right at the time.....but I was very wrong.
If he is worried about being selfish then he has some feelings for this girl. When I finally ended my friendship for real, I had absoluyely no regrets aside from the hurt I caused everyone including the EA partner. I haven't looked back since.
If he sticks to his word (which won't be easy, not a reflection on him, just the effect of an EA/inappropriate friendship) then you may see an improvement in your M. I know with me it was like a burden had been lifted off me which allowed me to be more loving to my W.
Are you throwing in the towel or just having a bad day or perhaps expecting a better homecoming than you received and the result didn't meet your expectations. I know how crushing it can be to get your hopes up for a certain result and then not have that met.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
