"I don't know for sure on this. WAW's are unpredictable as hell."
My point exactly is this believe less than 50% of what she is saying, dang this is tough.
"Do you think that maybe you should talk to D11 alone first and get an idea what is running through her head?"
Am leaning towards your other option of being a 'united front' with W.
"Does D17 have anything to do with D11?"
D17 has basically checked out, too much going on in her life with boys & work & now that it is summer all she wants to do is hang with friends. D11 is just kinda lost in all of this I think.
"Would she and D11 talk at all?"
How do I say this, um I love her dearly but she isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. Unless it has something to do with fashion she has no use for it.
"Maybe instead of "pushing" the W on D11's IC maybe just suggest it to her due to this incident?"
I like this idea best, just not quite sure how to carry it off without seeming controlling on the sitch.
"I know from experience that a united front as far as stuff(disipline)etc. with the kids is from a W's perspective...a great thing. If you do nothing then she thinks you won't help her with the kids, that your a bad dad, that you don't care enough about them to help. You do to much she thinks you're butting in. This will be tricky to do with D11. If she truly blames the W, then she will surely blurt it out during your talk with her..you must be wary that the D11 talk is not turned into a R talk between you and W if you go this route."
Damned if I do damned if I don't. If it goes this route also need to becareful with my words so if they get back to W they aren't taken wrong. God this is fun...
