Well, just so you know....it wasn't right away...but about 4 hours after he made the deposit. ;\) Something about his phone call to me just didn't sit well.

I guess it's the same thing as turning over a large rock and finding icky creepy crawlers underneath. I guess it's my fault, cause I looked?

OTOH, I have never NOT confronted him when I found out a lie before. This will make me feel more powerful and in control of myself. My 1st H was quite an accomplished lier, could look me square in the eye and lie to me. That about wrecked me (after 19 years), so honesty has always been pretty important to me. My current H knows that.

I'll just have to focus on the fact that this is part of the MLC. I've also pretty much decided that out of my check I will only deposit the same amount that he did. I have always been generous and the "giver". I have been the primary financial support for the last 8+ years while he worked in his family business. I'm really tired of being the responsible one.

I am going to do something nice for myself.

Maybe next payday he won't have a "short" check.

Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.

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