I aggree with Cat on the disciplining. Though I think in the short term it might be better to lean a little more towards his standards and try it out. I will be honest, I don't think either me or my W are as strict as your H, but I if I was a little more strict like my W I would probably have a much easier time getting them to coorperate with me. Ultimately this is an area where the two of you will have to talk and decide what is best for the kids.
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