yes, my self-esteem has gone down some...but I'm working on that.

I did file CS last August and since the children were conceived in another state, the case had to cross state lines. Right now I am waiting on whether any of the addresses will come back positive to prove that he gets mail somewhere.

I'm confident that it will soon. I just have to be patient.

Is there anything I can do? I've been reading about this thing about going dark. Ok, I am going dark but not by choice!

Do I remain dark anyway? We live thousands of miles away from each other now and I figured if he was concerned about me and especially our children, then he would go to the ends of the earth and try to find us.

My BIL's wife doesn't even want to help.