Strangely enough, yesterday I had a very strange sense of calm. I mean, eerily calm. And it was like as if someone just spoke in my head... It's going to be okay. I heard those words in my head, literally. So now that you all think I'm nuts or something, something else odd transpired.
My father is a hiker. He goes on hiking trips every year. My SS was getting more and more curious about it, and this year, being he's turning 12 this month, he's old enough to explore this new outdoor adventure. So, my father asked my H and SS if they would like to go on a hiking trip several months back. My SS got excited, and my father started make the plans, checking equipment, etc. He too was getting excited, and for the first time, my SS and my father were 'bonding', now in stead of the neighbor next door, it was getting to be like nephew and uncle. You have to remember that my H's children are my parents grandchildren, but my SK don't treat them or see them the same as "grandma and grandpa". It's been a long road for them, but finally, the kids are responding to them well.
Then, the rug was pulled out. My father attempted to contact my H about the camping trip with a couple of emails about a month ago. H never responded. A week ago, my father asked me what my thoughts were. I told him, if H hasn't responded to you, he probably won't. He is really self absorbed right now. If he does respond to you, than it's possible that he's figuring it out.
After a month of no communication, my father was just about to make alternative plans, and take a co-worker with his son with him, when H responded to his email yesterday. My mother was the one to give me the details, and apparently, H blamed his no response on soccer... which I can see being half the truth. He told my father that he doesn't think he'll go because he feels guilty that he's been spending all this time with SS and not SD, and he wants to spend more time with SD. Now, yes, I can understand and believe this is all true. But I also know that he's feeling the pinch because the truth is, I'm not there to watch SD if he goes on this trip and I bet his mother is putting some pressure on him.
So, my mother and father discussed it, and they decided that my dad will just ask if SS would like to go alone, and that will leave H free to spend time with SD, unhampered. LMAO!!! So, we'll see what he comes up with.
So, it seems that he's coming out of the woodwork... maybe. I thought it interesting.
