I agree with the TN thing. The house cleaning...well he SHOULD HAVE pitched in and done what you suggested. Now, however, he doesn't live there. So, now it's all on me. Including the lawn (which was "his job"). The OCD makes it virtually impossible to have it done to his expectations, but I'll admit that I could try a bit harder in this area. Disciplining the kids is a tough one. He's very strict, and I kinda let them have some fun (not in any way that they would hurt themselves). I also remember being a kid myself, and I know when d4 wants to be alone and pout, I let her. On the other hand, he says, "don't let her act that way. She's acting like a spoiled brat." He's a big proponent of spankings, and thinks the kids should get spanked all the time. I'm not against spankings, but I think it should be a very last resort, and a rareity. Time outs work well. I had to introduce him to that when our d was little. I think he was surprised at how well it works.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
