Another "action" you can take, could be to go through something like "the 5 languages of apology", and look at how you could make a real apology to him, for your part in things(ie: the things he mentioned in his email).
I dont think he's feeling an apology from you.

Making one to him, in a way that registers to him, would be one of the most significant actions you could make, in my opinion.




Originally Posted By: ms ladybug

Why wouldn't he just give mc a try...just to say he tried everything?


He has already very explicitly answered that question to you.
He does not believe you would change, to do what the MC suggested. He thinks you only want to go to MC, to "fix HIM".
That you wont change, and that you think you've done nothing wrong, so you think there's no reason for you to change.

That's why I keep saying that you should make a commitment to him, to try anything that the MC tells you to try.

Saying "i'm open to suggestions", is not the same thing at all.

That is also why I keep emphasising that you should apologise to him; to acknowlege that you did do some things wrong; and to fully acknowlege ALL the things he complained about you in his email.



Last edited by Dom R; 06/10/08 06:21 PM.
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Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle