For the Guy with Kids and a WW4

[hopeful4her]

Thank you, gentlemen. I am trying so hard. I want to do the right things. I thought I was going to get from you, Puppy.

I still want to give her the post of smartcookie. Just to let her know I know.

I told her last night that I don't blame OM for where we are. We did that to ourselves. I told her that he IS what is keeping her thinking that there is no hope for us. That is when I told her that I will always have hope for us because I keep seeing signs. Signs from God. She made no faces. No disagreement. Just looked at me and took it in.

WW is the type that thinks guys do guy things. Girls do girl things. In the back of her mind, I didn't do enough guy stuff with him. I told her that if that is what she thinks, then she needs to do some research. Hispanics males are usually very macho. I was not raised that way. My father always helped in the house as much as outside.

My mother raised me to be tolerant of others. I have had plenty of gay friends. I know that there are some in my faith that think otherwise and condemn them. I believe that God made us all and loves us all. I DO believe that it is not natural and that there is a flaw in the brain somewhere. But they are who they are.

I told WW that there are some rough, tough gay football players. It is not how someone was raised.

We have been suspicious since he was very young. Very feminine side to him. I helped raise an extremely intelligent, independent young man. I am very proud of him. His father will be an ass about it when and IF he finds out. I need to have a talk with S14 soon.

I do feel our talk went well. We should continue to talk some more. I wanted to tell her that I just couldn't understand how two people that care so much about each other and DO love each other should have it so hard.

I DID also tell her that life has just been hard for us. Like my attorney told me, out of the top 10 stressors in a marriage, we had like six or seven. Usually could only take two to kill a marriage. She started to name individuals that I would blame. I told her it is not people. Just situations. I gave nephew as an example. We HAD to take him in, but it changed our lives. Stressed us both. She started to defend herself, I cut her off. I told her even though we HAD to take him in, it stressed our marriage. Nothing else to say. No buts about it. She finally agreed. My sister moving back home from Tennessee with a baby. Took away the only babysitter we had for us to go out. Too much stress on my mother with a new born and all my indians to take care of them all. Thats when I told her that I did not blame OM for our sitch.