Moving toward reconciliation... I think

[S.T. _I Made It!]

that is awesome NA! I hope your weekend is truly a rebuilding and reconnecting time.

On the finances. I've come to realize that some men just don't act like anything even if inside they DO feel something. I think part of it is that they just let us do whatever to avoid the conflict that might happen if they do something different. So perhaps your H would like to be involved, and like you said, be pleasant and calm about it, and you might be surprised?

remember to act as if. I think we are usually apprehensive and not pleasant and calm because we are anticipating a not so good response when we talk with our spouse about finances. Remember Michelle's flight home? remember her talk on the plane and that she changed her mind how she would approach her H when she got off the plane? and guess what, she was happily surprised by his reaction!