(((((Chris))))) I am sorry you are going through this.
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I told him there was a time that he loved me and never could imagine those feelings changing. That if anyone had told him, he would have said no way. So why is he just SO sure that the feelings he has now (no love) cannot change.
I said this word for word to my H. The problem is that you can't convince him of anything right now. This is something he has to figure out on his own.
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He has someone in front of him right now that truly has an understanding of him, where he has come from, what his goals and dreams are, and what his needs are. This person that he has SO many other good things with. And this person that has promised to dedicate her life to creating happiness for all of us.
You are trying so hard to convince him. Yes, these things are true but he has to come to that realization on his own. When you do this it makes him feel like you are discounting his feelings. Right or wrong, he is entitled to his feelings and he has to work through them on his own.
You have to let him miss you. Its kinda like...you don't know what you've got until its gone. He doesn't know what life is like without you. In his mind, his problems will be solved....but that is probably not going to be the case.
You will get through this. It is the hardest thing most of us have done, but no matter the outcome, you will be ok.
