You can definitely do something about 2,3,5 that he can observe with very little contact and conversation. Like you said show up in a clean car. If he comes over your house to pick up the kids....make sure your house is clean. Disciplining the kids you can practice right in front of him at the party. This is one of the area my W complains about me (I'm a bit of a softy when it comes to my children). The imprtant thing is to make these part of your life style, make the change (if you want to) and stick with it. Then if he comes over numerous times to pick up the kids, then the house will allways be clean. Eventually he will notice. If he says something, I would just say I have been making some changes in my life and leave it at that.
The tennessee thing is a thing to tackle when you to are on better terms.
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Why wouldn't he just give mc a try...just to say he tried everything?
In his mind he already has, but he seems far from done to me. You can make some of these changes and start to change how he feels.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
