Here is a thought, I am just going by what W has said, could it be that maybe she is reading more into something that isn't there with D11 because it is easier for her to do that than to blame herself....just a thought
I don't know for sure on this. WAW's are unpredictable as hell.
Do you think that maybe you should talk to D11 alone first and get an idea what is running through her head?
Does D17 have anything to do with D11?
Would she and D11 talk at all?
Maybe instead of "pushing" the W on D11's IC maybe just suggest it to her due to this incident?
Quote:
'Do you think that maybe if YOU and YOUR W sat D11 down and talked to her about the sitch that it would show a united front from your W and you when dealing with the D11?'
I think this is a great idea, maybe even better than what I stated above with just doing it by myself.
I know from experience that a united front as far as stuff(disipline)etc. with the kids is from a W's perspective...a great thing. If you do nothing then she thinks you won't help her with the kids, that your a bad dad, that you don't care enough about them to help. You do to much she thinks you're butting in. This will be tricky to do with D11. If she truly blames the W, then she will surely blurt it out during your talk with her..you must be wary that the D11 talk is not turned into a R talk between you and W if you go this route.
