'Do you think that maybe she is reaching out to you about D11's behavior and looking for help with that sitch?'
If I were to do a nono here & read between the lines I think you are right and this might of been what I couldn't put my finger on not that she is looking for validation, but wanting me to form a plan with her, or maybe talking with D11 about it more than I have.
'Do you think that D11 may need a some IC to help her deal with the sitch?'
You & I have talked about this before and I think I need to come out of my darkness a bit and 'push'(bad word) W on this I have kinda let her run with the kids and not said much about it I think it is time to pull back on the reins some and take abit of control on this very issue.
'Do you think D11 might be taking this out on your W because she is spending more time with W than with you?? That happens in S and D's. The child will play one parent against the other sometimes.'
The kids continually saw me being nice and acting 'as if' even though she would not talk to me or would yell at me I am sure that is playing into it. I don't know if she is 'playing' her but actually acting out her anger for the sitch since she is with her more I think you are right and so W gets the majority of it that would make sense.
'I'm sure she is in turmoil. I'm sure she is greatly conflicted. Just keep doing what your doing for now. Keep validating and let her talk as much as she wants. Don't get dragged into an R talk and don't read anything into anything. You have seen how the WAW is..'
I hear ya loud and clear I will stay the path
'Do you think that maybe if YOU and YOUR W sat D11 down and talked to her about the sitch that it would show a united front from your W and you when dealing with the D11?'
I think this is a great idea, maybe even better than what I stated above with just doing it by myself.
Here is a thought, I am just going by what W has said, could it be that maybe she is reading more into something that isn't there with D11 because it is easier for her to do that than to blame herself....just a thought?
