Seperation Success Stories?

[7 Year Itch]

Well, the next bomb was dropped, then we ML afterwards. Go figure. I'm so confused and destroyed.

H plans to move out next Monday. And on the advice of his therapist on how to handle it with kids our age, she told us we should tell them at the last minute. So nice Father's Day coming up. They'll have a nice day with Dad, then that night we get to destroy their little worlds.

I'm so upset. I just cannot believe he sees ending this all as preferable to rebuilding. I mean we have SO much more to rebuild from then I see many others on here. I cannot believe what some couples come back from on here.

He says I'm a great Mom, good person, he doesn't have ill feelings towards me, we've ML 4 times since Friday, so even though he says he's no longer attracted to me, I'm not buying it. We've had some of the best sex of our relationship over the last 2 months. And he says he's already seen a lot of positive changes in me. But (there is always the but), he feels NOTHING towards me, and that isn't going to change.

I just don't get it. He had said in the past when I suggested a separation that he felt I stoood a better chance with him in the house than with him gone. So now that is ringing in my ears. I cannot believe this could be the last time my family is together under one roof. I'm dreading this week ,and just feel like a basket case.

I know in my heart this is so wrong. So so wrong for the girls, me AND him. He could have everything he wants/needs with us working together. We have some of the best communication about our needs that we've ever had. Why can he not see this as an opportunity for real growth in our marriage. Why is ending it easier?

So are there any success stories when the person moves out with the idea that this is just the next step to D, rather than it being a productive separation?

Chris