(So this leads into her saying "D11 blames me for 'everything' that is going on and 'its hard on me' I am trying to work through this, just takes time, it's not fair, who knows what will happen, might be too late by then". Before I could even answer she sent this text..."don't answer I'm going to bed")
All above is what W said through about 2 hours of texting. D11, is upset with her for starting to smoke again and is blaming her for the sitch that we are in. She seems in great turmoil by her messages. Her texts throughout the night IMO were carrying an air about them that I can't put my finger on. Like she is wanting me to do or say something to make it right. Throughout her texts she would keep referring to feeling like she was 'nuts' or 'losing her mind'. I know I am not trying to read into any of this just has ME PERPLEXED! A whole day of communication with emails & texting and then so far today nothing.
Like I said I just kept validating where I could, giving her kudos for doing things on her own without being sappy about it. I offered no advice to her would just try and change the subject so as not to go down a cheeseless tunnel.
Brian
I'm just throwing things out here. We need a little more help here I think. Hopefully Ping or somebody else will chime in.
Do you think that maybe she is reaching out to you about D11's behavior and looking for help with that sitch?
Do you think that D11 may need a some IC to help her deal with the sitch?
Do you think D11 might be taking this out on your W because she is spending more time with W than with you?? That happens in S and D's. The child will play one parent against the other sometimes.
I'm sure she is in turmoil. I'm sure she is greatly conflicted. Just keep doing what your doing for now. Keep validating and let her talk as much as she wants. Don't get dragged into an R talk and don't read anything into anything. You have seen how the WAW is..
Do you think that maybe if YOU and YOUR W sat D11 down and talked to her about the sitch that it would show a united front from your W and you when dealing with the D11?
