H stopped by in the morning to see the Ds since he had been out of town all week. While he was here he fixed the AC, so I don't need a new unit. He cut the lawn while he was here and then he took us for a late lunch. H did something "WE" talk today that is always so confusing. Makes it hard for the no expectations rule.
I got ready to take the Ds to church and H actually complimented me on my dress. He also told me that the bedroom looked nice.
Part of me thinks he might not be done.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I am sure you are past the "baby steps counting" just like I am. I see you recognise them but you are not reading too much into it. I believe your last statement is true but you will need all the patience of the world and IMO you need to detach as much as possible before this whole mess can turn around. But I believe it still can... Love K
Thanks K. I had thought there was no turning back, but now I want to belive there is hope. I was just texting with H though to let him know that D15 is upset and wants things to be over. H asked if he can talk to her tomorrow. I am sure he won't be giving her any go news or telling her anything that will make her feel better.
Today he called while the Ds and I were eating lunch. H wanted to know if he could come over. We had discussed him coming over the night before and I said sure. Told him there was enough if he wanted lunch. After a couple of hours we all went shopping together. I found some things for the Ds for vacation and H went to look for shorts for himself. D10 told me he wanted me to go with him while he tried them on. H seemed pretty relaxed about that. At one point I told him to turn around and grabbed his bottom. H seemed amused and I did it again a little later.
H stuck around for a couple of more hours and I asked if he was staying for dinner. He ended up eating with us before he left for the evening.
As you said K, I need to work more on the detaching. Hopefully my trip with the Ds next week will help. I have been sharing our plans with H. Letting him know we are going to go and have a good time. Maybe my meeting with the L on Tuesday will really help me detach.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Ah, to be on summer vacation and do what I want with my time. I did have to run into work to pick up a couple of things that wouldn't fit in my car on Friday. Then I took the Ds shopping and we bought a bunch of stuff for our upcoming trip. I think we are all set with everything for our trip. It is great to know I'll be in my beachside room this time next week.
Last night D15 came to me upset. She is tired of not knowing what is going on and wants it to be over. She said she almost wants us to get a D just to get it over with. I sent H a text with all the info but the last part. Just told him she wants it over. H asked if he could come talk to her tonight and I said sure. H did show up after we had had dinner. Stuck around for about an hour and a half. He was in a good mood and joked around. D15 was on the net looking at where we are staying and telling H about it. When H was leaving I asked if he was doing his dinner night w/ the Ds tomorrow and he said yes. He also said he would talk to them more. I was thinking WTF, because he still hasn't clued them in to the D thing. UGH!
I meet with the L tomorrow. I am so not looking forward to it.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Thanks Forrest. I was thinking tonight as H was sitting in the family room that he is never going to say anything to the Ds. I have done most of the talking with them through this whole mess.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Good luck at the L tomorrow. Remember, you are getting information because, as all good teachers know, knowledge is power. The more you know, well, the more you know...it doesn't have to be any more than that at this point, does it??
Good Luck with the lawyer today. Watch it because even here that Ls are not very "aggressive" (!!!!) H's friend almost "pushed" us to sign S papers (I am not sure it's good or bad that we don't have any yet) to get things straight and "calm".
Ah, to be on summer vacation and do what I want with my time. I did have to run into work to pick up a couple of things that wouldn't fit in my car on Friday. Then I took the Ds shopping and we bought a bunch of stuff for our upcoming trip. I think we are all set with everything for our trip. It is great to know I'll be in my beachside room this time next week.