Waltzing around significant events

[Matilda2]

I've been hesitant to start another thread, but I find myself needing some support as I deal with my "non-anniversary" on Wednesday (would have been 31 years). During the day I am basically ok, but I have been waking up at 2am for the last week with wild dreams (or nightmares?) about my exH. That, or I find myself composing a letter to him.

Do you acknowledge or just ignore special dates with your ex? (it's just about 10 weeks post D for me)

Matilda

[No_hill_for_a_Swimmer]

Hi Mattie
Acknowledge to yourself. Ignore to all others. Dreams are normal and i personally (not scientific research) is your unconsious mind trying to resolve the consious cannot.

The problem is this wound that scars over takes tons of time. Stick with it.

Writing a letter but not mailing is good. Then in a year read it so you know how far you have come.

[Matilda2]

Thanks, Hill. As always I appreciate your wise words! Writing a letter now and reading it in a year is a great idea. I know I have made progress from this time last year.

[cat03]

How about you go out with a girlfriend (or more) to distract yourself? if you think you'll stay home and brood don't, make plans and do something else that normally you wouldnt' do. Hugs hon)))))))))))))

[Matilda2]

I don't plan to brood.....but don't really expect to be partying either. I hope D17 will go out with her dad so at least I can have some peace and quiet!

Thanks for the hugs, cat!

[shoeprincess]

It will cross your mind, then move on to another thought. 31 years is a long time and the date most likley will always stick with you. My dad divirced my mom when I was nine but says when the 24th of Feb comes around every year he remembers. As far as the nightmares and dreams, I too was having alot of dreams as my anniversary date came up last week. But now that the date has passed, so has the nightmares. hugs to you!

[No_hill_for_a_Swimmer]

Mattie
When you get involved in other things that date will fade as time. I've had dates that 30 years ago were of major importance but they pass now and I think (was that the date of a past event) two days later. It gets better.

[Matilda2]

Well, the sun came up and set as predicted, and I survived my non anniversary. Both my sisters acknowledged the date, but in a "caring, are you ok?" tone. I was fine (just a tinge of moodiness) until exH came over last night to bring something to D17. He was friendly, but gave no clue he knew it was a significant date. That is par for the course, and I need to take lessons from him on moving on!

No dreams/nightmares last night....Shoeprincess, you were right!

[NNP1965]

(((Mat)))

Thanks for starting a new thread... I like to know where I can find my friends :-)

So does this mean you mad ea counseling appt too???? {wink}

[JAK58]

MAt,

(((((Hugs)))))))

Glad you started a thread too.
Hope every thingis good with you.

JAK