I have no intention of that, but someday I want to be loved again and I think I deserve that. Doesn't everyone?
Yes.
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He is back to justifying the A with "you treated me like crap for 16 yrs., my needs weren't being met, so I had every right to have an A" I cannot live with that or like this anymore.
Heard that too. Ironic, I never heard how unhappy he was until the A started. Hmmm....
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I think putting some space between us, will be good
At this point, it will help. I asked H to move out from Oct 07-Feb 08. He finally did. It was hard, but the best thing that happened to us.
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I have admitted to every mistake I have made, but he just says he was a great husband and gave me everything I ever wanted. Then we just get in a circular fight that goes no where. We end up playing the blame game and I just sob. Its awful.
I have heard all of that as well. Its been "lwb's marriage" from the get go. Um, ok. I have apologized for things I have done/haven't done (did realize some during this process, that I didn't realize I was doing), but don't apologize anymore. I continue to say "This is fixable, but only with 2 people" and leave it at that. R talks get me nowhere, and will get you nowhere at this point. Stop talking. Focus on you. Be a friend. Someone once said to me "Lovingly detach" (hi Puppy!), because then its healthy for you, but leaves the door open if things change.
You are right. Nothing can be done about your H's contact/A with OW. Nothing. Control you, control your emotions, continue on being a fabulous mom. Don't smacktalk your H to your kids, don't fight in front of them.
