Too late for DB, thread 7

[newnamenewlife]

Oh, CW--that's a hard thing to read. My H could have written it, word for word. There is something so awful about an H who "cares" about you, respects you "as a person," but doesn't love you or want to stay married to you. I find it harder to deal with that than if my H despised me. At least there is passion in hatred.

I agree that you should stop saying you'll be there for him. He knows. I also feel awful for my kids, feel my H is choosing to live apart from them. As you told me one time, though, you don't have to like this, but you have to accept it. I KNOW how impossible it feels. I'm terrible at applying this stuff to my own sitch.

I think I will have the same kind of reaction when my H finally moves out--another major hitting bottom. I plan to go dark at that point as much as possible because I think it will be the only way I can begin to move forward. Right now, I still believe on some level that any day now my H is going to wake up and see what he's doing.