A Very Rough Year - Breast Cancer & MLC

[TwinDad]

Hope sorry for the Rollercoaster....it does hurt so much. Part of me is just waiting for the downward ride again. It sounds like you have been doing a good job not pursuiting him and have been very compassionate. The good news is that he realizes that it is to do with him and he isn't blaming you for the most part aside from the puppet master thinks he is a puppet. There does seem to be a lot of guilt in him for feeling this way.

During the midst of the last 8 months, my W would spend a lot of time out at bars drinking with her fiends coming home very looped. At one point she even said she was probably having a MLC and that she just needed to run wild for 6 months and that she would probably come back. I think I just looked at her not knowing what to say if anything (my pre DB days!)

I don't want to pry too much, but Why isn't he the one sleeping in the den? At the very least he is the man, aren't we the ones that are supposed to sleep on the couch

Do you think he would benefit from going away a week with oneof his happily married friends on a golfing trip or something like that? Or maybe you and your GF could take a trip somewhere and see how he feels about missing out on the fun?

When you said you didn't think you were in love with him during a certain part of your M, did you see a counselor during that time.