H is having affair after all - part 3

[Evie]

i guess i was asking if i thought it were possible, but I didn't realise it at the time.

H is unrecognisable to me at the moment and he's making it very easy to dislike him. He seems to resent the fact i'm still in house and appear to have everything!! I'm sure right now if he could have the clothes off my back he would.

Yesterday he called me regarding a debt that we owe to inland revenue, you may recall i was paying this debt until H stopped all my money and the solictor advised me to get this debt halved and pay the minium i could off my half, this i did but the inland revenue are now chasing H for his half which he says he cant afford to pay. The only way he can pay is if he stops paying my car loan.

These are the 2 following texts I received off him, regarding his proposal:

1. If you want to phone inland revenue up and resume paying the total amount inc the three thousand they have just billed me for then I will continue paying your car loan until finished. You probably get more tax credit if your outgoings increase where as I don't get any benefits.
2. Another alternative would be if I reduce monthly payments to you by £100.00 until inland revenue paid - just an idea. Loan period is 29 months

I understand he is in panic mode again regarding his money as the minimum he has to pay is £100.00 per month.

I can't afford a loan for £3000 so i'll have to tell him to sell my car. D1 has a little old run around which i will have to run into the ground, i guess some sacrifices must be made and it is my car loan.

Jen - i do feel after last wednesday that i have completely dropped the ropes now, as you say there is no telling what will happen in the future and i must admit that i am actually much happier now than i have being in a long time. OW is welcome to the person he is now.

I want to move things on as quickly as possibly and have my own place, but i'm anxious about the process. I know i have to look after my needs and the kids. My colleaque yesterday accused me of burying my head in the sand, i know I am, but I can't cope with H's anger and the fight over finances. My plan would be to get as much as is fair from this D.

H knows that in the last 2 weeks, i have being to concert a gig, he knew i went out early on Friday, but doesn't know where, he knew i was drinking with a neighbour on sunday and he saw me on friday wearing new clothes to work (i know i looked good as i had many compliments), he seems to hate the fact that i'm happy and seemingly to be moving on and having a good time....wtf?

This weeks positives:

Hair looks great

I didn't make yoga on Sunday, but I did go last night, really enjoyed it and plan to go tomorrow.

Lunch tomorrow with a colleaque to clebrate her birthday

Dinner with a friend on Thursday

Tapas and evening out on Friday.

Day and night with the kids on saturday.

Bought a toe ring yesterday and booked a tattoo for a weeks time.

I'm feeling a lot more confident than in a while, i have being wearing some different clothes and getting compliments - so all good there.