Did I diappoint you

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Michelle!

I hope you are ok today, are you up, in bed, I'm not sure??? One way to sort your eyes out from crying...cold teabags, works a treat. Stick them in cold water, or ice water, get the tea brewed in them, then stick them into your eye sockets and relax for 5 minutes. Have tissue handy as you get tea stains down your face!

I was thinking about what you said about NOT wanting a D. Of course you dont, but the way you are putting it seems a little bit like holding him to ransom. And I think I agree with GoingForward, that it might backfire and the better course of action might be to back down, to be humble, to listen, to say ok then. What good is fighting going to do you? You will make him angrier and more resentful and that isnt going to help your cause. Be the person he least expects, be flexible, agree to the S or whatever he is so anxious about?

I know this must be so hard, but as outsiders listening in, we all seem to be saying the same thing to you - do you think you could be brave and surprise him and back down? If you love him, set him free, as the saying goes.

Whatever he says now, he's angry, and I'm not sure he is saying whats really in his heart. My BF was adamant it was over because IDLYA and that he DIDNT have depression. He even emailed me in December stating that I was wrong, he wasnt depressed and he wasnt going to snap out of it, it was just that he DLYA. He was in the angry stage then. It took 3 months for him to admit to me that he was depressed and that he'd known that he was all along and he was sorry...

I think your H has alot of growing to do. Thinking of you,
Ali xxx