Not sure where to go here!! HELP!!

[saffie]

Slightly in contrast to what root says, I found that when my parents separated it was an immense relief - the tension that you could have cut with a knife evaporated. However, both my parents worked well together to parent us to the best of their abilities, and my sister and I always came first. They did not move far apart so we always saw both our parents.

I do agree, however, that you need to consider this more carefully and not react in a knee jerk way.

I also was in a M where I was the one not showing affection. Over time you can show that this is not the case. The fact that your H is drinking etc makes me think that he is confused and things are not as cut and dried as he says. I found that each of us taking culpability for our own actions and admitting then to one another made a HUGE difference.