(((((Dom))))) After all of the help you've given me, I wish I had wise words. FWIW-there are lots of legit places to get non-sexualized massages. But it sounds like that isn't what you really need.
you're right. the massage WOULD be nice. sexual or otherwise, it would feel good for the moment... but what I really need, is someone to cuddle up with, i think. Someone who actually chooses to be next to me, rather than being paid. Even a "working girl" wouldnt help with that. hence why i'm feeling drawn to bars, i guess.
interesting, or something, that supposedly men go to bars for sex, and women go there for affection. ha. I want a "one night stand", without sex? Gah.... even if I could find that, it wouldnt stop at one night. that's EA central. I know what's dangerous. i KNOW DAMMIT!!!!
... it just doesnt make the feelings go away. i need affection... .   .     .
PS: thanks for the support, C_K
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle