"I was thinking tonight as H was sitting in the family room that he is never going to say anything to the Ds."

I can see why it is hard.

"I have done most of the talking with them through this whole mess "

I have struggled with how to explain it.. here and in real life. Its hard. I wish I could explain it better. Half the time.. I still have NFC Disease.

Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.