Cat-- Just checking in on you. I hear you about the frustrationss of disciplining kids alone. It was so much easier with 2; when one of us got too hot, the other could step in.
What I find works is putting myself into a time out when I am getting really frustrated. We also talk about issues when they are not happening right at that moment, and keep the talks really short and to the point (like when my S lashes out in anger at his sister--he sounds just scary-mean! I recorded it once and he was surprised and sorry--that has helped).
