Well, telling her she can't let him see the kids is only going to make it more necessary for her to file for D so that legally you have no control over this. Perhaps she's doing this because you wouldn't take the kids so she could have alone time with OM.

Since you can't emotionally detach, your best bet is to go dark. Not even for your W or M, but for your own personal mental health. Get into a T, consider AD's too. I did a low dose. It's okay if you need it.

Do not talk with your W when you are mad. I'm sorry, but if you try to control this situation she will probably file for D.



There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.