I think as long as you focus on YOU, and not your husband or your marriag,e then I think your T is fine. Husband bashing isn't going to help you. Leaving him behind and working entirely on yourself is what's going to make you healthy and attractivee for any future relationship regardless of who it's with.
No one has a crystal ball, and no one can predict the future (if a spouse is going to come back or not). You shouldn't be focusing on if he is or not, you should be focusing on how you can be happy in your life regardless of what happens. Anyone's S can die tomorrow in a car accident. Does that mean our own lives end for good? Do your greiving, but then start looking at how to get your life back. Who are you as an individual? What are some things you've wanted to do for youreslf but haven't? What do you want to learn or improve about yourself?
Imlin's advice about finances... if there is any sign he's pulling you into big debt an LS may be wise to consider. Your H can file for D any time he wants to regardless if you have LS or not (although it may make him angry enough to file. I noticed my H took the steps to file in response to anger).
P.s. My T didn't think my H would return either (Heck he came to one of my sessions to tell her he wasn't, and that he needed her to help me "get it through my headl!!!")
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
