Yes it was strange to see that I can laugh again. Made me realize that I can move on from this and still be ok, no in fact better.
I kept telling T that I thought my H was a good person, just off in la la land. I got the impression that she thought I was making exscuses for his behavior, like some kind of battered wife (she councils battered woman as well). Felt like she wanted to shake me up so that I could see who he really was. The thing is, the negative points she was bringing up are all true. H has always been on the selfish side, tended to put his needs first. H has always been a little lost so would not make tough decisions, that way he could blame me if things went wrong. H has no friends either becasue he doesnt reach out to keep those kind of connections.
Her comment to me was maybe when people start to see H for who he really is then they dont want to be friends with him because he is empty. I think its becasue he is more of a loner type, but very charismatic on the surface. People who know him passingly think he is great, he just doesnt let people get close (except for me and now OW).
She kept telling me that she didnt think this A would last but she didnt see him coming home to me either. Very tough to hear. But, I know she will kick my @ss as far as getting me into shape. So I'm going to try her out for a little while, hoping that she is wrong about H.
Still , it would be nice to have someone give me advice on the best way to try and reconnect my R with H. But hey, thats what I've got all of you for, right!
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
