just a few ideas that may be some use. I think it is very important not to worry about ather people and what they say / think. You cant do anything about how your W behaves but you can do things about how you react to that behaviour. If she is Bitchy , angry what ever , how are you reacting ? is it the same as you have always reacted? Now my W can be Bitchy , angry etc. i used to back off and keep low when she was like this. Now I just bust through it , stay on path keep pma up. I will acknowledge with , "a wow thats stressing you out huh? " or something along those lines. Remember she wants you to emphasise with the way she feels , but at the same time not react adversley if that makes sense.
Keep working on you , let W follow , it will take time.
