Thanks everyone. I ended up deciding not to set the alarm. Brokenhearted you were thinking the same way I am thinking. It isn't going to change anything. He still is going to be in the house. Although I dont' think we get charged for an "oops." We had the cops out once on an accident and the fire department once and weren't charged.
H never did come right out and ask for the money, but I could tell that is what he was hoping. For me to say....here is some money! Not going to happen....ever.
I have been VERY straight forward with him. I said, "You are not welcomed in this house and the only reason why you are hear is because the law says you can." To this he said, "Well it must be the law for a reason." And I said, "Just because something is the law doesn't always make it right. Just ask Rosa Parks." He shut up really fast then because we had that conversation a million times in the past about how laws aren't always just.
Anyhow...things are going alright....
Thanks again for checking on me.
Sara S.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08