Still trying to be patient 4

[gForce]

Babysitters around here are as young as 12. So I agree with PDT - don't feel bad about leaving S14 to watch the younger ones, and no explanation is needed to H about it.

You also don't have to explain your night out to H, but I understand the desire to avoid the discussion and/or confrontation all together. Could you meet your friend somewhere rather than having him come to the home and possibly cross paths with H?