NOBODY does these things without making mistakes. In fact, NOBODY knows what the right thing to do in a particular sitch is, even if you know the principles behind it. So don't kick yourself on that point. But isn't the point to make changes in yourself. The secondary effect may be that it is the catalyst for change in your spouse, but you have no control over that. The question in your mind, if I hear you correctly is not what you should do, as it is conflict over whether you would be receptive to a change in W (if it were to happen) after everything that has happened. None of us can answer that for you.
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