GF, I think at some point all these WAS's need to realize that we'll make it without them, and that they can't control us any more. At that point, the anger really kicks up. But it can be a turning point also.
I'm still against any DB'er filing, but WAS needs to know that we aren't standing in the way.
Did I give the impression of suggesting Michelle should file? That was clearly not my intention if it came across that way.
When I suggested that perhaps it's time to let go, I meant perhaps it's time to quit thwarting him on the idea of at least a legal S. It is clearly Michelle's decision to make, and I totally respect that. However, I just think her not wanting to let go is due to being stubborn and not wanting to feel "defeated" in a way. Like me. And by not letting go of that, all it really does is cause more pain and friction for them both.
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Of course, Michelle's H is pulling the same BS my W pulled. "Hey, I'm too lazy/broke to file, will you do it for me? Oh, and if you don't, I'm going to get more angry and threaten you."
Michelle's H filed something for either a legal S or D. He sent the papers to her parents' house. She hasn't had a chance to pick them up yet to see exactly what they are.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
And by not letting go of that, all it really does is cause more pain and friction for them both.
