First, breathe. Second, breathe again. Now that that is over, welcome to the best support site for the crummiest situation. Your sitch and mine sound very similar except H wanted to move out and left 3 months ago. Once I found out about the A, I packed up my S and moved 120 miles away to get peace.
As far as filing for D, let me suggest that you take a moment before doing so. It sound like you are in a very emotional state and are wanting to file as a knee jerk reaction. I suggest only filing when you have come to complete peace with where you are at. Getting a D will not make the pain or problems go away, it is just a piece of paper that says you are no longer married.
The purpose of DB is not to try and "win" our H back, but to learn how to detach with love and gain strength for ourselves. That way when our H come out of the fog (and yes, many of them do, but not all) WE are in a better place to see if this R is truly what we want. Our H are mentally ill right now, and it is best to leave them be to sort out their mess. It does require significant patients, but if you dont have it in you, then you dont.
Keep posting, there are alot of wonderful people here who have great advise.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
