Wish I could read her mind>>>>

[Bworl]

The last time we had a serious talk about me not getting my hopes up, I let her know that I will support her decision, but that it was the last thing I wanted to see happen. I did not tell her that I was "fighting" for the relationship or that I was, or would do anything to stop her, or change her mind....wrong??

I think the statement above is perfect. And where you chose to stop is perfect as well. You don't need to tell her you are fighting for your marriage, your actions take care of that.


As for "I love you," well those can be trickier depending on her state of mind. But the only thing you can do is throw one out there at some point and see how it flies. If it's well received, that let's you know you can try one again some time.


As for the whole alpha male thing, I'm just trying to say that it's not about power and wielding power. It's about being decisive, strong, and confident. You don't feel the need to beat around the bushes to say what you have to say, because you are in control of YOU and you know how to say what you mean IN LOVE.


She never wanted a boy toy who says "yes dear" to everything she suggests. Why do you think she quickly agrees to just about any idea you have? She wants a MAN who will make decisions and take steps, and that she knows she can trust would do anything to keep her safe.


I think things are progressing in your relationship if what you are sharing is accurate. As things progress and trust is slowly but surely rebuilt, you will at some point have to take a chance and begin speaking what your words have been showing. It's still not up to you to start a relationship talk, that's her job given the circumstances. But expressing your feelings and devotion to her in simply yet meaningful ways? I think that's fine.


Again, just be prepared to adjust if she reacts unfavorably. Keep in mind the mental picture of trying to offer food to a frightened squirrel. Calm, gentle and loving. Don't overwhelm her.


Does that make sense?


Bill