Alpha male is not caveman. It's not selfish and dictatorial.
Alpha male just cuts through the bs to speak the truth in love.
I hope we haven't scared you so badly that you are refraining from speaking the truth in love to your wife.
Only YOU know when those moments are right.
And.....a big AND....you have to be prepared for ANY response...and NOT go through an on the site meltdown.
So tread carefully.
bill
I don't know if you guys have scared me, or if I have been slightly confused about that from the start.
That is what I mean about being able to voice things, rather than show her by my actions. I know the actions are important, but something like you both suggested probably would not have crossed my mind for the reasons I mentioned, fear of rejection, her thinking of it as pressure, etc.
The last time we had a serious talk about me not getting my hopes up, I let her know that I will support her decision, but that it was the last thing I wanted to see happen. I did not tell her that I was "fighting" for the relationship or that I was, or would do anything to stop her, or change her mind....wrong??
These last couple of months I fight each day not to say "I love you", or "I missed you today", and wonder sometimes, is she waiting to hear it? Does she want to say it?
Does she truly believe I have accepted that we are working towards a separation and ultimately, a divorce? How would that affect her thinking in all of this?
Alpha male just cuts through the bs to speak the truth in love.
I have to confess, I really don't know what you mean by that.
