Trying Hard to Detach

[addie]

Hi Eagle,
I am soooo sorry that you have to go through this. It is one thing to suspect that your Sp is having an A but when it is actually confirmed, it is one of the most devastating things a Sp can ever go through.

It looks like DBing may be over with in many ways. I am very hurt and wonder what to do.

If you have any hope of saving your M you need to continue DBing. You have to make yourself the better option. A's are an addiction and fantasy which usually fizzle out within a few months anyhow. If you can hang in there you may still have a chance of turning things around. You will get a lot of good advice on the Infidelity forum.