If I drag this out, I think he'll only get more agitated/angry and worse, it'll give him a reason to direct it all at me - it makes me a very easy target for all his negative emotions if I "thwart" him on this.
I have felt the same way in my sitch. Lately, I have been trying to avoid any and all R talks with my H because I simply don't want to have them. I already know we're getting D'ed; I just don't want to talk about it!
But yes, my avoidance is NOT helping much. It DOES just make him angrier and angrier with me. I cannot take anymore of the animosity here. That is why I have to let go. It's not what I ever really wanted, but for me, it's time to face the reality of the situation.
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But I don't know if I can bring myself to sign the summary dissolution. I don't want a D. I want my REAL H back!!!
I certainly wish I could have my real H back, too, because this guy......well......he just sucks.
People change, and unfortunately, it's not always for the better.
Sometimes we have no choice other than to finally accept what is right in front of us. A changed person.
I had to agree with my soon-to-be-ex H on something today. He said to me, "All I want to know is one thing. Wouldn't you agree that we don't get along anymore?" I had been avoiding that question for too long because I was too damn stubborn to accept and admit it, but today, I did finally agree with him, and you know what? It wasn't so bad.
Get some rest, sweetie, if you possibly can. We're all going to be thinking of you tonight.
(((((((Michelle)))))))
Last edited by GoingForward; 06/09/0808:16 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
