It's so great to see you posting! How have you been?
I don't post much at all, but when there's time, I come to read through some of the posts. It humbles a person to see how many other people are suffering through the same situation as we've been through..and to realize that we DID survive. We may not be where we want to be yet, but we know that it is in the human spirit to persevere, no matter how deep the suffering.
Laughing made some great comments, don't you think, as far as the OWs of the world? Would be a good thing if LBS would take her words to heart.
Twinkie must like frequenting the business that I work for, or she likes to keep tabs on whether I'm working or not. She's been seen in there AGAIN. This was not a regular occurence before as far as I know.
My mother talked to my oldest son (the one that was told 'in confidence' by his dad about the OW having to get out of his apt) He swore her not to tell anyone, let alone me..yes, he did specifically tell her not to tell me..so I'm assuming (which is wrong I know) that his father , specifically, does not want me knowing the change in his relationship with Twinkie. Why? Beats me. He apparently is not aware that Twinkie is telling people. And besides, what is the big secret? What's he's afraid of? And especially from me? It's not like I'm picking up the phone or trying to contact him. There's been NC for years now...so why would he fear me finding out? Maybe someone can help me with his question, because I'm not seeing the logic behind it.
Anyway, since I had already told mom about the 'event', she just played dumb when son told her, and did not let him know that I was aware of it. She did say 'you're mother wouldn't want him back anyway" I did tell her that from now on, those type of comments are not to be made to my sons. That that type of negativity is not something they need to hear from anyway. I know she was questioning me..if I would want him back..and I left that question hanging very vaguely, because truthfully, there is no answer at this time, and I certainly don't see a reason for thinking I need to have an answer anyway.
H is having a 'bump' in the road in his MLC. It doesnt have anything to do with me, and all to do with him. Very well could be that he's got his sights on an OW2 or 3 or 4 or.... Again, his own father went through many women after his MLC broke up that family. I hope H doesn't go down the same path, but he's taken several steps in that direction already.
I do hope that someday he will want to 'talk'. We have one unmarried son, and someday we will have to be united as parents when/if that son does get married. If we could get to the point of not feeling uncomfortable around each other, that would be healthy I guess.
Mermaid, you helped many, many people while you posted regularly. I hope you'll reconsider, and keep current here. If nothing else, our insights may be of help to some others here, like the 'oldies' were when we first registered here. Just knowing that MLCers scripts seem to all be the same, their actions the same, their behaviors and words the same....that does give comfort to someone just starting on this long journey.
Much love to you both
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
